Being adults… and least in age, we all know that rejection is a certainty, both in our personal lives and as we build our businesses. But when it actually happens, it’s a completely different scenario. Whether it’s a “tiny” rejection or a major hurdle to professional success, it’s very easy to get lost in the overwhelming feeling of loss. One rejection can easily lead to days (or weeks) of ignoring business tasks. Next thing you know you’re depressed and just realized you’ve spent a month binging on your new Netflix series addiction.
One thing is certain. If you are working hard on your life, your business, or setting any type of goal, you will experience rejection at every turn. If you aren’t, you have to ask yourself if you’re taking big enough steps. Growth happens when you step outside of your comfort zone to do the things that scare you. In that place, rejection is not only possible, it’s promised. Here are a few things to do when you experience rejection.
You’re human (at least we’re hoping that’s who reads our blog). If you try bottling all your feelings and emotions inside, at some point, you’ll explode. Most likely, you’ll partake in some behavior that you’re not proud of. It’s incredibly common. Let your humanity out. Scream, go for a run around your workshop, punch your mini desktop punching bag.
Talk out loud even if you’re alone and acknowledge exactly what’s on your mind. The key here is, ‘if you’re alone’. Try not to let your co-workers think you’re crazy. Talk to your significant other or a friend. The point is, to heal you have to first accept. You can’t fix a problem that you won’t admit is there.
Why Did This Occur?
The human mind has developed a unique way of categorizing information. For example, the typical person’s brain automatically places rejection as a ‘not good for me’ box and pushes it to the side. The thing is, that’s not always the way we should look at it. Life (and failure especially) is our greatest teacher. Rejection offers us the chance to make sure what we’re doing is right for personal or business lives. Evaluate why the rejection came, and where it came from. Determine if this is something you really want to do, but may just need a better approach.
If you need professional help, get it. If this is a warning message for you telling you that what you’re pursuing is not what’s best, listen. After you’re done processing your feelings and emotions, get tactical by examining what happened. A rejection can be a bump in the road or worse. What happens next is your choice. We vote for learning and coming back even stronger.
What’s Your Next Step?
Your next steps after rejection should be strategic and tactical. Take some personal time, and try to develop a new plan of attack. If it’s getting more expertise, be specific about how to do that and attach a timeline to it. If it’s creating a different approach to go after the same opportunity, take some time to examine what others before you have done that helped them achieve success. There is nothing wrong with ‘standing on the shoulders of giants’.
In the age of technology, use every research tool available to you. When you don’t know where to start, get online and start looking for help. Trust us, you can find it.
You know better than most – building a business is tough, and it takes an incredible amount of work. You almost never feel like you’re finished. As if it weren’t hard enough, when you begin facing rejection it can seem nearly impossible to get on top. One of the best things you can do is use rejection to motivate you! Tips on using rejection as a motivator.
It sounds cliche, but every experience in life can become a lesson. Each of these lessons can help you grow. Try to change the way you look at rejection. Remember that rejection is inevitable and that with hard work and daily focus, your business will succeed.
Experiencing rejection does not have to be the end of your personal or business story. You can change your story, just as you can change your mind about anything else. It sounds like a ‘self-help’ book, but never make choices that make you feel weak. It’s your life. It’s your business. Make each experience, including rejection, count.